A starting place in addressing intrusive memories is to understand that our memories are multifaceted and that each facet can be addressed in order to lesson their intensity and impact on us.
In this process I came to fully understand that my memories and beliefs were not only thoughts or images but also emotions and bodily sensations and that all of these needed to be processed in order for true change and healing to happen.
Your strong emotions are not the problem, they are a helpful sign that you need some care. Not only do you deserve to care for yourself, it is your responsibility to do so. This includes asking for help when you need it, setting good boundaries and reaching out for support.
Emotional safety in a sexual relationship is the best way to ensure a good sexual experience for everyone. Check out the ways to improve your sex life.
Historically, I have paid much closer attention to my dreams than to my nightmares, I have discovered that, like my waking life, looking closely at the things that cause me fear and shame, has been very effective in helping me to understand areas of my self that require attention and have, surprisingly to me, greatly reduced their intensity and frequency.
Men learn that emotions, and emotional connection are, at best, distractions (unless they are a means to money or sex) and, at worse, anathema to true masculinity.
If your safety, housing, employment, human rights or mental health is at risk based on the outcome of a debate then you are a significant stakeholder in the debate and caring for your mental health is paramount.
Stories can heal. Stories can hurt. We get to make our own meaning out of our stories. Last June, a Netflix Comedy special went viral. "Nanette" by Hannah Gadsby started out as a classic stand up special with lots of jokes, and lots of self deprecation. Then the tone started to shift. It began to … Continue reading Healing Attachment Wounds – Telling the Story
Understanding the basic styles of attachment is the first step to healing any attachment wounds you may have.
People come to counseling for all kinds of reasons. There is no wrong reason to talk to a counsellor, here are some issues that counselling can be particularly helpful with.