There is a way through. Grief can be approached gently, from the side. It doesn't have to be challenged head on.
Check out my Recommended Reading list, so far. What have you been reading on these topics or related to them?
Our society has become increasingly perfectionistic, with less and less tolerance for anything considered less than perfect or ‘outside of the narrowing range of normal.’
We need to learn to talk to our children about death as a part of their life education, not only as a response to a major loss.
It is actually a book where you look up your ailment, from "broken dreams," to "tax return, fear of doing" to "cancer, having" and are given recommendations on what to read.