Understanding the basic styles of attachment is the first step to healing any attachment wounds you may have.
"...the more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death." ---Irvin Yalom
People come to counseling for all kinds of reasons. There is no wrong reason to talk to a counsellor, here are some issues that counselling can be particularly helpful with.
Start by thinking back to previous years, what was the most enjoyable parts of previous seasons? Make sure that those things are central in your planning, in terms of how much time you spend on these, versus the parts you enjoyed the least.
Our society has a tendency to continue to perpetuate fear and shame around sexuality, in ourselves and towards others. This shame results in lack of information which causes real harm to ourselves and others, and a difficulty identifying when something is causing real problems and when it is not. Fear will not help us with this. We need to examine our own beliefs about sexuality and porn, look at the information about sexuality and porn, and make decisions based on this.
The question, at this point in history, while working our way out of a time when grief has been so pathologized, might be, how do we know when there is a problem with grief?
"They say they love me, but if they really knew, who I am... what I've done...."
We have power to act and and to influence another person's journey with mental illness, but we do not have all the power.
A diagnosis is not an assessment of who you are. It is a description of the symptoms you are experiencing. Some diagnosis have more stigma attached than others and some can help to bring life-changing clarity to an individual, directing them towards needed help.
We exist on a spectrum. Some people are extreme introverts and others extreme extroverts and these tendencies may shift throughout our lives depending on our life situations.