Fear in a relationship often oppresses both people within it. It is more likely to drive people apart then together. Love is a gift. A gift is only a gift if it is freely received. We need to remember that there is enough love for everyone.
People come to counseling for all kinds of reasons. There is no wrong reason to talk to a counsellor, here are some issues that counselling can be particularly helpful with.
We need to be better informed about porn. When we make parenting decisions based on fear and lack of information, we may do more harm than good.
The work of a couple is to determine what role porn plays in their relationship, what role it could play, if any, and how this works for everyone.
If your own personal morals and ethics permit you to observe two consenting adults engage in sexual activity, without guilt, for the purpose of your own enjoyment, then you may be interested in learning how to best support porn which uses legal and humane labour practices.
Our society has a tendency to continue to perpetuate fear and shame around sexuality, in ourselves and towards others. This shame results in lack of information which causes real harm to ourselves and others, and a difficulty identifying when something is causing real problems and when it is not. Fear will not help us with this. We need to examine our own beliefs about sexuality and porn, look at the information about sexuality and porn, and make decisions based on this.
...if you don't like your therapist, and/or you think your therapist doesn't like you, you are not likely to experience the changes your are hoping for.
Feelings do not go away if you bury them, they cause damage internally which sometimes leaks into destructive behaviour, the kind which can put couples in crisis.
If your religion prohibits sexual behavior that is considered developmentally normal, according to developmental psychology, and you plan to impose these rules on your child, there are some things to consider...
When sexual connection has been lacking for a while, due to illness, overactive schedule, childbearing, child raising, or due to conflict that has just finally been resolved, it can be awkward and feel unnatural to sexually reconnect with your partner. In an earlier post "Sex- How much is Enough" , I talked about reasons why there might be … Continue reading Increasing Erotic Connection