This study showed that people who scored 4 or more on the ACE questionnaire were seven times as likely to become addicted to alcohol.
We shame those "who can't handle their alcohol"and we shame those who don't drink when we want to. This is called a toxic culture.
In this process I came to fully understand that my memories and beliefs were not only thoughts or images but also emotions and bodily sensations and that all of these needed to be processed in order for true change and healing to happen.
Men learn that emotions, and emotional connection are, at best, distractions (unless they are a means to money or sex) and, at worse, anathema to true masculinity.
Our society has a history of toxic sexuality. Starting with the Puritans who saw sexuality as evil and needing to be 'cut off' shame and blame have been part of our relationship with our sexuality.
When family members behave in ways that are abusive or unsafe, many of us respond with our childhood responses, fight, flight or freeze.
Somewhere between indifference, constant guilt, and food as a chore, is the goal of genuinely enjoying food for all the joy that it can bring us.
People come to counseling for all kinds of reasons. There is no wrong reason to talk to a counsellor, here are some issues that counselling can be particularly helpful with.
...if you don't like your therapist, and/or you think your therapist doesn't like you, you are not likely to experience the changes your are hoping for.
We have power to act and and to influence another person's journey with mental illness, but we do not have all the power.