My initial reactions to what I was seeing pointed out my own deeply entrenched stereotypes that rose up while watching the video. I expected the images to become darker, not lighter.
When you feel the need to withdraw, when you feel pain, restlessness, irritation, sadness or discomfort consider what it is that you actually need to care for.
Sometimes we get to a point where we risk losing relationships and potentially our own health, freedom, or life, as a result of things that we’ve said or done.
Redirect discussions about the ‘rightness’ or ‘wrongness’ of your limitation. You are communicating your preference, not making universal moral judgements on them and are not asking for opinions on your request.
If you love someone who seems to be randomly explosive, it can feel like you’re loving volcano.
Boundaries communicate to others, the kind of behaviour you are okay with and not okay with, in a firm, assertive way.
Forgiveness is not about excusing a behaviour, ignoring the impact of someones words or actions, or about pretending that everything is fine.
When someone shows signs of being emotionally hurt or angry about your words or actions, or tells you that something you did or said hurt them, ask them what it was you said or did to hurt them and how that has impacted them.
Check out my Recommended Reading list, so far. What have you been reading on these topics or related to them?
Conflict within a faith community, can sometimes cause people to wonder if they’re losing their faith or if someone else is. Depending on the faith, this can feel catastrophic.