When conflict is unresolvable, sometimes the relationship will end, but this does not always have to be true.
I had not been aware that in my tendency to minimize or avoid, what i perceived as negative emotions, I was also not noticing what actually felt really good.
There are a lot of people on this planet. There is no need to be lonely. Reach out to the people you know, invite them into your life. Consider taking risks with people that you have not invited to be closer to you and including those who you may not have had a change to connect with. Because more friends are more friends.
The following steps are designed to help reveal which underlying beliefs, including values or judgements, might have contributed to the conflict and what to do about them.
Creative writing is one way to access other parts of our brain, emotions, and ways of knowing. When Virginia Woolf wrote, “Write it slant.” I think she was encouraging writers not to come at a subject head on, too obviously ‘on the nose,’ but to look at the subject in different ways in order to reveal it in a fresh way to the reader. I think we can do that for ourselves too
Hardly anyone wants to harm another person, but often, we feel even more strongly about not wanting anyone else to be angry at us. We are uncomfortable with other people’s pain and hurt.
This post is meant to help you identify the various types of non-physical abuse, which include verbal abuse, emotional abuse and psychological abuse. Once identified you should be better able to know where to set boundaries in terms of expecting respect from others.
Continuing to avoid things we know we will need to face means that we are carrying an extra weight, even when we think we are ignoring it.
Feelings do not go away if you bury them, they cause damage internally which sometimes leaks into destructive behaviour, the kind which can put couples in crisis.
Passive aggression most often occurs when someone is angry and feels that they cannot express that anger overtly, and instead communicate it indirectly.