Consider ways in which another person could have the same goals as you, or goals that you would admire, and still make decisions and act in ways that appear contrary to you.
It sucks to find out that something you said or did hurt another person. It is scary to be accused of something that you didn’t do, or didn’t mean to do. It’s disheartening and sometimes enraging to be labelled a ‘bad person.’ But you are not alone.
I won’t say that we don’t put effort and resources into the ending of relationships, but all too often, this has less to do with honouring the ending, and more to do with getting even.
The skills to stand up for oneself, to confront others, or to do ones own work are necessary ones and worthwhile developing.
We all need each other. We need diversity to fill in our gaps and the areas we cannot see clearly. Finding that in a partner is a rare treasure.
You don’t have to have the same interests to connect but being interested in your partner and who they are will keep the two of you connected.
We exist on a spectrum. Some people are extreme introverts and others extreme extroverts and these tendencies may shift throughout our lives depending on our life situations.
Dr. Atkinson lists the following 10 attributes of couples who report as very happy and are in long term relationships:
Siblings, Friends & Intimate Partners
While PTSD is becoming more recognized and treated, within the military, men experience trauma in a variety of other contexts.