"Chronic suicidal ideation takes so many forms. It can be fantasizing about passing during sleep, developing a terminal disease, dying in a tragic accident. Or it’s background noise, a staticky station whispering taunts you can almost, but never entirely, tune out." Anna Borges
In this process I came to fully understand that my memories and beliefs were not only thoughts or images but also emotions and bodily sensations and that all of these needed to be processed in order for true change and healing to happen.
Men learn that emotions, and emotional connection are, at best, distractions (unless they are a means to money or sex) and, at worse, anathema to true masculinity.
I now know that putting my head back in the sand will never be possible and that decisions about opting in or out of various struggles will always be complicated.
People come to counseling for all kinds of reasons. There is no wrong reason to talk to a counsellor, here are some issues that counselling can be particularly helpful with.
There are times when things feel really dark and I wonder if reusing my grocery bags is kind of like, pouring out my glass of water onto an oncoming volcanic eruption.
A recent study shows that loneliness is as harmful as smoking 15 cigarettes a day! And it can occur at any time in life. Here are some ways to stay connected.
...if you don't like your therapist, and/or you think your therapist doesn't like you, you are not likely to experience the changes your are hoping for.
The question, at this point in history, while working our way out of a time when grief has been so pathologized, might be, how do we know when there is a problem with grief?
"They say they love me, but if they really knew, who I am... what I've done...."