Historically, I have paid much closer attention to my dreams than to my nightmares, I have discovered that, like my waking life, looking closely at the things that cause me fear and shame, has been very effective in helping me to understand areas of my self that require attention and have, surprisingly to me, greatly reduced their intensity and frequency.
In some dreams I've felt comforted by being able to see other aspects of myself and understand emotions that I’ve paid less attention to during the day.
Imagine talking to your body parts lovingly, imagine them talking to you. These are your treasures that you get to keep
That compassion changed things for me. It felt like a re-write of my story. It felt like a shame lifter. It felt like I could forgive myself and even discover that no forgiveness was necessary. It was powerful.
There is a way through. Grief can be approached gently, from the side. It doesn't have to be challenged head on.
Lise Brown, a Winnipeg based Adventure therapist, talks about our fear of the outside; kids with knives, forest bathing; risky behaviour vs rope climbing; and knowing your limits.
Sometimes we get to a point where we risk losing relationships and potentially our own health, freedom, or life, as a result of things that we’ve said or done.
Boundaries communicate to others, the kind of behaviour you are okay with and not okay with, in a firm, assertive way.
The practice of behaviour modification has become so prevalent in our society, that we often don’t even notice when we’re using this system and can hardly imagine any other way of doing things.
But if we start with the assumption that humans are rational creatures whose primary concern is their own survival, then we need to assume that people made decisions regarding their behaviors and substance use for a reason. Sometimes, for a very good reason.