This study showed that people who scored 4 or more on the ACE questionnaire were seven times as likely to become addicted to alcohol.
A starting place in addressing intrusive memories is to understand that our memories are multifaceted and that each facet can be addressed in order to lesson their intensity and impact on us.
In this process I came to fully understand that my memories and beliefs were not only thoughts or images but also emotions and bodily sensations and that all of these needed to be processed in order for true change and healing to happen.
Historically, I have paid much closer attention to my dreams than to my nightmares, I have discovered that, like my waking life, looking closely at the things that cause me fear and shame, has been very effective in helping me to understand areas of my self that require attention and have, surprisingly to me, greatly reduced their intensity and frequency.
In some dreams I've felt comforted by being able to see other aspects of myself and understand emotions that I’ve paid less attention to during the day.
Imagine talking to your body parts lovingly, imagine them talking to you. These are your treasures that you get to keep
That compassion changed things for me. It felt like a re-write of my story. It felt like a shame lifter. It felt like I could forgive myself and even discover that no forgiveness was necessary. It was powerful.
There is a way through. Grief can be approached gently, from the side. It doesn't have to be challenged head on.
Lise Brown, a Winnipeg based Adventure therapist, talks about our fear of the outside; kids with knives, forest bathing; risky behaviour vs rope climbing; and knowing your limits.
Sometimes we get to a point where we risk losing relationships and potentially our own health, freedom, or life, as a result of things that we’ve said or done.