Most of us live with some amount of disappointment, anger or sadness related to our relationship with our parents.
If your religion prohibits sexual behavior that is considered developmentally normal, according to developmental psychology, and you plan to impose these rules on your child, there are some things to consider...
You do not need to model perfection, in fact, allowing your child to see you fail, will show them that they do not need to be perfect and that if they do fail, they too, can recover.
The skills to stand up for oneself, to confront others, or to do ones own work are necessary ones and worthwhile developing.
Siblings, Friends & Intimate Partners
Most heterosexual, cis-gender parents don’t spend much time imagining the possibility that their child’s sexuality may be different from their own. This is a mistake.
Lise Brown, a Winnipeg based Adventure therapist, talks about our fear of the outside; kids with knives, forest bathing; risky behaviour vs rope climbing; and knowing your limits.
Redirect discussions about the ‘rightness’ or ‘wrongness’ of your limitation. You are communicating your preference, not making universal moral judgements on them and are not asking for opinions on your request.
Boundaries communicate to others, the kind of behaviour you are okay with and not okay with, in a firm, assertive way.
Forgiveness is not about excusing a behaviour, ignoring the impact of someones words or actions, or about pretending that everything is fine.