We don’t think of the fact that, as human beings, we don’t live in laboratories and so there are 1000’s of variable at play in each of our lives, even when we might have some big things in common. These variables will result in a wide variety of responses to similar events and experiences.
It sucks to find out that something you said or did hurt another person. It is scary to be accused of something that you didn’t do, or didn’t mean to do. It’s disheartening and sometimes enraging to be labelled a ‘bad person.’ But you are not alone.
Caring for ones’ own spiritual health and development is as important to mental health as eating well and exercising.
But when these types of situations come up over and over again, I have to believe that this is a systemic problem and that ONLY holding the individual responsible will not solve it.