Hardly anyone wants to harm another person, but often, we feel even more strongly about not wanting anyone else to be angry at us. We are uncomfortable with other people’s pain and hurt.
The question, at this point in history, while working our way out of a time when grief has been so pathologized, might be, how do we know when there is a problem with grief?
Whether it is a memorial service for a family member, a graduation at a school, the honouring of a historical 'hero,' or the celebration of a national holiday, lets make room for all the stories, all the feelings, and all the experiences.
The first thing we tend to do when feeling ill or in pain is turn to the things that used to help us to feel better. If these no longer work or have become impossible, despair can set in
We all need support at some point in our lives. We don't have to get it exactly right but we can get better at this!
There is a way through. Grief can be approached gently, from the side. It doesn't have to be challenged head on.
For those of us paying attention, to world issues and local issues, it feels like a good time to panic. For those who have spent significant amounts of time and energy working to prevent some of these things, daily media updates are disheartening at best, devastating at worst.
Suicide impacts all of us and speaks about who we are as a society. We can all work towards healing our society.
When you feel the need to withdraw, when you feel pain, restlessness, irritation, sadness or discomfort consider what it is that you actually need to care for.
When something changes in life, even when it’s a good thing, there is something lost. That loss might be, what was, or what could have been.