Most of us know that the December holiday season is not all merry and bright for many people, however we feel somehow that it is supposed to be, and when it isn't for us, there is a disconnect that can be incredibly painful. Here are some ways to care for yourself during this holiday season:
According to attachment theory humans require an emotional foundation from which to hope and risk and venture out. I've shared where I find my security in hopes that you might discover yours.
If you can acknowledge grief and loss instead of minimizing or judging yourself for feeling it, then you will be able to heal and carry on.
We need to acknowledge this grief, in order to not lose hope. We need to acknowledge the size of the loss and it's repercussions. Then we need to search out those who share our desires for social change and partner with them. Sometimes we will need to simply grieve together.
I now know that putting my head back in the sand will never be possible and that decisions about opting in or out of various struggles will always be complicated.
If your safety, housing, employment, human rights or mental health is at risk based on the outcome of a debate then you are a significant stakeholder in the debate and caring for your mental health is paramount.
A shared condition.
When we assume that we are, or should be unaffected by the world around us and then shame ourselves for being affected by the world around us, we have become unwell, as humans.
Stories can heal. Stories can hurt. We get to make our own meaning out of our stories. Last June, a Netflix Comedy special went viral. "Nanette" by Hannah Gadsby started out as a classic stand up special with lots of jokes, and lots of self deprecation. Then the tone started to shift. It began to … Continue reading Healing Attachment Wounds – Telling the Story
"...the more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death." ---Irvin Yalom