The idea that adults are supposed to have it all together and be completely independent, is a myth that affects the willingness of many to reach out to their friends for support when things are not going well.
Hardly anyone wants to harm another person, but often, we feel even more strongly about not wanting anyone else to be angry at us. We are uncomfortable with other people’s pain and hurt.
This post is meant to help you identify the various types of non-physical abuse, which include verbal abuse, emotional abuse and psychological abuse. Once identified you should be better able to know where to set boundaries in terms of expecting respect from others.
If your own personal morals and ethics permit you to observe two consenting adults engage in sexual activity, without guilt, for the purpose of your own enjoyment, then you may be interested in learning how to best support porn which uses legal and humane labour practices.
Our society has a tendency to continue to perpetuate fear and shame around sexuality, in ourselves and towards others. This shame results in lack of information which causes real harm to ourselves and others, and a difficulty identifying when something is causing real problems and when it is not. Fear will not help us with this. We need to examine our own beliefs about sexuality and porn, look at the information about sexuality and porn, and make decisions based on this.
Continuing to avoid things we know we will need to face means that we are carrying an extra weight, even when we think we are ignoring it.
Feelings do not go away if you bury them, they cause damage internally which sometimes leaks into destructive behaviour, the kind which can put couples in crisis.
Passive aggression most often occurs when someone is angry and feels that they cannot express that anger overtly, and instead communicate it indirectly.
We have power to act and and to influence another person's journey with mental illness, but we do not have all the power.
As adults, many of us fear our anger. We are used to avoiding it, hiding it away and then when it gets out, it feels too big to handle and causes damage in our lives.