This study showed that people who scored 4 or more on the ACE questionnaire were seven times as likely to become addicted to alcohol.
We shame those "who can't handle their alcohol"and we shame those who don't drink when we want to. This is called a toxic culture.
If you can acknowledge grief and loss instead of minimizing or judging yourself for feeling it, then you will be able to heal and carry on.
We need to acknowledge this grief, in order to not lose hope. We need to acknowledge the size of the loss and it's repercussions. Then we need to search out those who share our desires for social change and partner with them. Sometimes we will need to simply grieve together.
A starting place in addressing intrusive memories is to understand that our memories are multifaceted and that each facet can be addressed in order to lesson their intensity and impact on us.
"Chronic suicidal ideation takes so many forms. It can be fantasizing about passing during sleep, developing a terminal disease, dying in a tragic accident. Or it’s background noise, a staticky station whispering taunts you can almost, but never entirely, tune out." Anna Borges
In this process I came to fully understand that my memories and beliefs were not only thoughts or images but also emotions and bodily sensations and that all of these needed to be processed in order for true change and healing to happen.
Your strong emotions are not the problem, they are a helpful sign that you need some care. Not only do you deserve to care for yourself, it is your responsibility to do so. This includes asking for help when you need it, setting good boundaries and reaching out for support.
Emotional safety in a sexual relationship is the best way to ensure a good sexual experience for everyone. Check out the ways to improve your sex life.
These days we are inundated by social media and main stream media stories about all kinds of injustice. More than any one person could ever address. We walk away feeling guilty, angry, numb, annoyed and shut down. We feel impotent. It drags us down. It all feels so hopeless and if we're really honest, we feel cowardly, flaky, shallow and selfish, at times. So what do we do?