When you feel the need to withdraw, when you feel pain, restlessness, irritation, sadness or discomfort consider what it is that you actually need to care for.
When something changes in life, even when it’s a good thing, there is something lost. That loss might be, what was, or what could have been.
The problem with the way the diagnosis of BPD is being applied, is that, the individuals’ experience of trauma is often minimized or ignored.
While PTSD is becoming more recognized and treated, within the military, men experience trauma in a variety of other contexts.
Sometimes we get to a point where we risk losing relationships and potentially our own health, freedom, or life, as a result of things that we’ve said or done.
Redirect discussions about the ‘rightness’ or ‘wrongness’ of your limitation. You are communicating your preference, not making universal moral judgements on them and are not asking for opinions on your request.
If you love someone who seems to be randomly explosive, it can feel like you’re loving volcano.
Boundaries communicate to others, the kind of behaviour you are okay with and not okay with, in a firm, assertive way.
Forgiveness is not about excusing a behaviour, ignoring the impact of someones words or actions, or about pretending that everything is fine.
When someone shows signs of being emotionally hurt or angry about your words or actions, or tells you that something you did or said hurt them, ask them what it was you said or did to hurt them and how that has impacted them.