Your strong emotions are not the problem, they are a helpful sign that you need some care. Not only do you deserve to care for yourself, it is your responsibility to do so. This includes asking for help when you need it, setting good boundaries and reaching out for support.
As women, most of us are told in one way or another throughout the course of our lives, that we are only really welcome in the world if our bodies are found to be attractive to other people based on the beauty standards of our time.
I now know that putting my head back in the sand will never be possible and that decisions about opting in or out of various struggles will always be complicated.
If your safety, housing, employment, human rights or mental health is at risk based on the outcome of a debate then you are a significant stakeholder in the debate and caring for your mental health is paramount.
A shared condition.
When we assume that we are, or should be unaffected by the world around us and then shame ourselves for being affected by the world around us, we have become unwell, as humans.
Start by thinking back to previous years, what was the most enjoyable parts of previous seasons? Make sure that those things are central in your planning, in terms of how much time you spend on these, versus the parts you enjoyed the least.
Over the years, I have been inspired by the wisdom that so many of my colleagues carry and the love that many have for their jobs and the people they serve. I’ve have also seen colleagues struggle and lose hope while working in this field, and sometimes, in their ability to continue in this work.
We cannot isolate which emotions to avoid feeling. They are all connected. If we avoid or ignore one, we risk reducing our entire range of emotional experience.