If we have experienced trauma in our lives, our system may be on high alert and send adrenalin through our bodies even when it is not needed.
This study showed that people who scored 4 or more on the ACE questionnaire were seven times as likely to become addicted to alcohol.
In this process I came to fully understand that my memories and beliefs were not only thoughts or images but also emotions and bodily sensations and that all of these needed to be processed in order for true change and healing to happen.
Men learn that emotions, and emotional connection are, at best, distractions (unless they are a means to money or sex) and, at worse, anathema to true masculinity.
Stories can heal. Stories can hurt. We get to make our own meaning out of our stories. Last June, a Netflix Comedy special went viral. "Nanette" by Hannah Gadsby started out as a classic stand up special with lots of jokes, and lots of self deprecation. Then the tone started to shift. It began to … Continue reading Healing Attachment Wounds – Telling the Story
Understanding the basic styles of attachment is the first step to healing any attachment wounds you may have.
At some point in life, most of us will look at where we are and what we have, and how close we are to what we imagined our life would be. Whatever we see, how we feel about it will often be connected to how we feel about ourselves.
The question, at this point in history, while working our way out of a time when grief has been so pathologized, might be, how do we know when there is a problem with grief?
We don’t think of the fact that, as human beings, we don’t live in laboratories and so there are 1000’s of variable at play in each of our lives, even when we might have some big things in common. These variables will result in a wide variety of responses to similar events and experiences.
Most of us live with some amount of disappointment, anger or sadness related to our relationship with our parents.