According to attachment theory humans require an emotional foundation from which to hope and risk and venture out. I've shared where I find my security in hopes that you might discover yours.
These days we are inundated by social media and main stream media stories about all kinds of injustice. More than any one person could ever address. We walk away feeling guilty, angry, numb, annoyed and shut down. We feel impotent. It drags us down. It all feels so hopeless and if we're really honest, we feel cowardly, flaky, shallow and selfish, at times. So what do we do?
If there is something that is meaningful to you, the outcome of which impacts you and or those you love, it is important to understand effective ways to communicate your perspective.
Georgia sprained her ankle recently and wants her husband to pick up the slack with the housework. Dennis wants the holiday time he asked for and was denied by his manager. Joyce wants her siblings to pitch in with caring for their mother who has cancer and is needing a lot of support. Sabrine wants her … Continue reading How to Ask for What you Want
I now know that putting my head back in the sand will never be possible and that decisions about opting in or out of various struggles will always be complicated.
The skills to stand up for oneself, to confront others, or to do ones own work are necessary ones and worthwhile developing.
But when these types of situations come up over and over again, I have to believe that this is a systemic problem and that ONLY holding the individual responsible will not solve it.