When family members behave in ways that are abusive or unsafe, many of us respond with our childhood responses, fight, flight or freeze.
Understanding the basic styles of attachment is the first step to healing any attachment wounds you may have.
Fear in a relationship often oppresses both people within it. It is more likely to drive people apart then together. Love is a gift. A gift is only a gift if it is freely received. We need to remember that there is enough love for everyone.
You cannot force someone to love and care for you, or to stay in the relationship, you can only tell them what you need and ask for what you want.
While it is reasonable to ask your partner for support in the area that you feel insecure about, it is not appropriate to expect a lifelong agreement that is based primarily on unresolved fears and unhealed wounds from previous relationships.
We can feel attraction to another person's spouse, we can resent our children for the imposition on our lives, we can find relief at the death of a loved one. None of these feelings make us bad people. They are just feelings.
People come to counseling for all kinds of reasons. There is no wrong reason to talk to a counsellor, here are some issues that counselling can be particularly helpful with.
When conflict is unresolvable, sometimes the relationship will end, but this does not always have to be true.
There are a lot of people on this planet. There is no need to be lonely. Reach out to the people you know, invite them into your life. Consider taking risks with people that you have not invited to be closer to you and including those who you may not have had a change to connect with. Because more friends are more friends.
A recent study shows that loneliness is as harmful as smoking 15 cigarettes a day! And it can occur at any time in life. Here are some ways to stay connected.