People come to counseling for all kinds of reasons. There is no wrong reason to talk to a counsellor, here are some issues that counselling can be particularly helpful with.
There are times when things feel really dark and I wonder if reusing my grocery bags is kind of like, pouring out my glass of water onto an oncoming volcanic eruption.
Start by thinking back to previous years, what was the most enjoyable parts of previous seasons? Make sure that those things are central in your planning, in terms of how much time you spend on these, versus the parts you enjoyed the least.
Continuing to avoid things we know we will need to face means that we are carrying an extra weight, even when we think we are ignoring it.
Feelings do not go away if you bury them, they cause damage internally which sometimes leaks into destructive behaviour, the kind which can put couples in crisis.
You don’t have to have the same interests to connect but being interested in your partner and who they are will keep the two of you connected.
When you feel the need to withdraw, when you feel pain, restlessness, irritation, sadness or discomfort consider what it is that you actually need to care for.
When someone shows signs of being emotionally hurt or angry about your words or actions, or tells you that something you did or said hurt them, ask them what it was you said or did to hurt them and how that has impacted them.
But if we start with the assumption that humans are rational creatures whose primary concern is their own survival, then we need to assume that people made decisions regarding their behaviors and substance use for a reason. Sometimes, for a very good reason.
A first aid kit is not a cure. It it is not meant to resolve any relationship issues, social issues or life challenges, but it might give you some energy to carry on.