Our society has a history of toxic sexuality. Starting with the Puritans who saw sexuality as evil and needing to be 'cut off' shame and blame have been part of our relationship with our sexuality.
You cannot force someone to love and care for you, or to stay in the relationship, you can only tell them what you need and ask for what you want.
While it is reasonable to ask your partner for support in the area that you feel insecure about, it is not appropriate to expect a lifelong agreement that is based primarily on unresolved fears and unhealed wounds from previous relationships.
In essence, “cheating” is when you breach the boundaries of the relationship which have been agreed upon implicitly or explicitly.
Siblings, Friends & Intimate Partners
Considering almost half of all marriages end in divorce (this does not include common law relationships) it's high time we re-think what we're doing.