Emotional safety in a sexual relationship is the best way to ensure a good sexual experience for everyone. Check out the ways to improve your sex life.
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Do You Have A Sex Addiction?
Our society has a history of toxic sexuality. Starting with the Puritans who saw sexuality as evil and needing to be 'cut off' shame and blame have been part of our relationship with our sexuality.
Creating a Monogamy Agreement for Long Lasting Fidelity – A Valentine Date Idea from your local couples’ therapist;)
While it is reasonable to ask your partner for support in the area that you feel insecure about, it is not appropriate to expect a lifelong agreement that is based primarily on unresolved fears and unhealed wounds from previous relationships.
When you find out Your Partner Uses Porn
The work of a couple is to determine what role porn plays in their relationship, what role it could play, if any, and how this works for everyone.
Ethical Porn
If your own personal morals and ethics permit you to observe two consenting adults engage in sexual activity, without guilt, for the purpose of your own enjoyment, then you may be interested in learning how to best support porn which uses legal and humane labour practices.
Porn & You
Our society has a tendency to continue to perpetuate fear and shame around sexuality, in ourselves and towards others. This shame results in lack of information which causes real harm to ourselves and others, and a difficulty identifying when something is causing real problems and when it is not. Fear will not help us with this. We need to examine our own beliefs about sexuality and porn, look at the information about sexuality and porn, and make decisions based on this.
When Love is New – 10 Ways to Improve Chances of Longevity
Feelings do not go away if you bury them, they cause damage internally which sometimes leaks into destructive behaviour, the kind which can put couples in crisis.
After You’ve Cheated
In essence, “cheating” is when you breach the boundaries of the relationship which have been agreed upon implicitly or explicitly.
Not Finding ‘The One”
When we rely completely on our partner for all of our relational needs, we risk overburdening our partners and asking for things that they may not possess. No one other person will be able to meet every one of those needs and if we are unwilling to look elsewhere to have them filled than we risk malnourishment in whatever area is lacking. The results of this, at an emotional level, varies from bitterness to depression, from anxiety to anger.
When You’ve Been Accused
It sucks to find out that something you said or did hurt another person. It is scary to be accused of something that you didn’t do, or didn’t mean to do. It’s disheartening and sometimes enraging to be labelled a ‘bad person.’ But you are not alone.
It's Not Just You 