Sometimes we get to a point where we risk losing relationships and potentially our own health, freedom, or life, as a result of things that we’ve said or done.
Redirect discussions about the ‘rightness’ or ‘wrongness’ of your limitation. You are communicating your preference, not making universal moral judgements on them and are not asking for opinions on your request.
If you love someone who seems to be randomly explosive, it can feel like you’re loving volcano.
Boundaries communicate to others, the kind of behaviour you are okay with and not okay with, in a firm, assertive way.
Forgiveness is not about excusing a behaviour, ignoring the impact of someones words or actions, or about pretending that everything is fine.
The practice of behaviour modification has become so prevalent in our society, that we often don’t even notice when we’re using this system and can hardly imagine any other way of doing things.
Conflict within a faith community, can sometimes cause people to wonder if they’re losing their faith or if someone else is. Depending on the faith, this can feel catastrophic.
If you want someone to change their behaviour or do something for you or stop doing something, you may need to ask them directly.