If there is something that is meaningful to you, the outcome of which impacts you and or those you love, it is important to understand effective ways to communicate your perspective.
Georgia sprained her ankle recently and wants her husband to pick up the slack with the housework. Dennis wants the holiday time he asked for and was denied by his manager. Joyce wants her siblings to pitch in with caring for their mother who has cancer and is needing a lot of support. Sabrine wants her … Continue reading How to Ask for What you Want
If George could let go of the idea that he is a terrible person and, instead, focus on taking responsibility for his actions, he might have a chance of making things right.
Fear in a relationship often oppresses both people within it. It is more likely to drive people apart then together. Love is a gift. A gift is only a gift if it is freely received. We need to remember that there is enough love for everyone.
You cannot force someone to love and care for you, or to stay in the relationship, you can only tell them what you need and ask for what you want.
While it is reasonable to ask your partner for support in the area that you feel insecure about, it is not appropriate to expect a lifelong agreement that is based primarily on unresolved fears and unhealed wounds from previous relationships.
We can feel attraction to another person's spouse, we can resent our children for the imposition on our lives, we can find relief at the death of a loved one. None of these feelings make us bad people. They are just feelings.
People come to counseling for all kinds of reasons. There is no wrong reason to talk to a counsellor, here are some issues that counselling can be particularly helpful with.
When conflict is unresolvable, sometimes the relationship will end, but this does not always have to be true.
Hardly anyone wants to harm another person, but often, we feel even more strongly about not wanting anyone else to be angry at us. We are uncomfortable with other people’s pain and hurt.