When family members behave in ways that are abusive or unsafe, many of us respond with our childhood responses, fight, flight or freeze.
"They say they love me, but if they really knew, who I am... what I've done...."
We have power to act and and to influence another person's journey with mental illness, but we do not have all the power.
Consider ways in which another person could have the same goals as you, or goals that you would admire, and still make decisions and act in ways that appear contrary to you.
work very hard to maintain the stance that each person knows their own self and situation best, and, as long as no one is at risk of being harmed, there is no one “right” decision.
Social anxiety is an increasingly common phenomenon.Some people feel that they’ve always been this way, others feel like their fears seemed to show up unexpectedly and have affected them ever since.
Sometimes we get to a point where we risk losing relationships and potentially our own health, freedom, or life, as a result of things that we’ve said or done.
Redirect discussions about the ‘rightness’ or ‘wrongness’ of your limitation. You are communicating your preference, not making universal moral judgements on them and are not asking for opinions on your request.
Boundaries communicate to others, the kind of behaviour you are okay with and not okay with, in a firm, assertive way.
Forgiveness is not about excusing a behaviour, ignoring the impact of someones words or actions, or about pretending that everything is fine.