Men learn that emotions, and emotional connection are, at best, distractions (unless they are a means to money or sex) and, at worse, anathema to true masculinity.
People come to counseling for all kinds of reasons. There is no wrong reason to talk to a counsellor, here are some issues that counselling can be particularly helpful with.
There is a way through. Grief can be approached gently, from the side. It doesn't have to be challenged head on.
When you feel the need to withdraw, when you feel pain, restlessness, irritation, sadness or discomfort consider what it is that you actually need to care for.
While PTSD is becoming more recognized and treated, within the military, men experience trauma in a variety of other contexts.
The practice of behaviour modification has become so prevalent in our society, that we often don’t even notice when we’re using this system and can hardly imagine any other way of doing things.
But if we start with the assumption that humans are rational creatures whose primary concern is their own survival, then we need to assume that people made decisions regarding their behaviors and substance use for a reason. Sometimes, for a very good reason.
Listen closely and support your child’s emotions. There’s no wrong way to feel. Let them know that you are on their side.
Most of us, however, just do what we’re told or what we think we should be doing, based on our ideas about what responsible adults look like. This is fine… until it’s not.
"Everyone else seems to have it together. Why can't I manage?" ...People want to know if there's something wrong with them, if they have a 'fatal flaw...'