While PTSD is becoming more recognized and treated, within the military, men experience trauma in a variety of other contexts.
Couples/Marriage/Intimate partners
When YOU are the Volcano – 7 Ways to Care for Yourself
Sometimes we get to a point where we risk losing relationships and potentially our own health, freedom, or life, as a result of things that we’ve said or done.
When Boundaries Aren’t Respected
Redirect discussions about the ‘rightness’ or ‘wrongness’ of your limitation. You are communicating your preference, not making universal moral judgements on them and are not asking for opinions on your request.
7 Ways to Love a Volcano
If you love someone who seems to be randomly explosive, it can feel like you’re loving volcano.
Where Do I Draw the Line?
Boundaries communicate to others, the kind of behaviour you are okay with and not okay with, in a firm, assertive way.
‘Forgiveness,’ A Dirty Word?
Forgiveness is not about excusing a behaviour, ignoring the impact of someones words or actions, or about pretending that everything is fine.
“I’m Sorry” 8 Steps to a Good Apology
When someone shows signs of being emotionally hurt or angry about your words or actions, or tells you that something you did or said hurt them, ask them what it was you said or did to hurt them and how that has impacted them.
Too Many Sticks & Carrots
The practice of behaviour modification has become so prevalent in our society, that we often don’t even notice when we’re using this system and can hardly imagine any other way of doing things.
Increasing Erotic Connection
When sexual connection has been lacking for a while, due to illness, overactive schedule, childbearing, child raising, or due to conflict that has just finally been resolved, it can be awkward and feel unnatural to sexually reconnect with your partner. In an earlier post "Sex- How much is Enough" , I talked about reasons why there might be … Continue reading Increasing Erotic Connection
How to Start a Good Fight
If you want someone to change their behaviour or do something for you or stop doing something, you may need to ask them directly.
It's Not Just You 